You'll know when a guy is trying to impress you. Easy! First is his wallet weight. If you're on date or maybe on a "hohol" with him, he'll offer to pay for everything. Even if he has low budget, he'll act like money isn't a problem for him. Second, when he acts like he's intelligent. He acts like he knows everything including current affairs, etc. Third, when he brags about his talents. It's embarrassing in his part if he tells you that he has no hobbies or talents. So what he'll do is he'll act like he knows how to play the guitar or maybe he'll brag about him being a part of the varsity team. Who would want to enter a relationship based on lies, right? You shouldn't really lie just to impress someone. Being yourself already impresses them.
I read an article about guys who lie just to impress their dates. "Lying to impress your date: Everybody's doing it" by John Campanelli, The Plain Dealer. According to a 2007 survey by Harlequin, men and women said that it's OKAY to lie sometimes in dating. I don't get it quite though but I've read that they have motives or reasons why they do. One thing is because they want to look good. As we all know, dating is a competition. He said that to get an advantage of their rivals, they boost themselves in the eyes of women. Just like a peacock showing off its colorful feathers, they show off the characteristics they think their dates will admire. Another is because they are good and scared. What does he mean by that? You only lie because you're scared. Scared that maybe if someone gets to know the real you, she won't find you worthy. So all you do is just to pretend to be someone you're not.
"I think the lies are based in fear," says Harlequin. "We think that if someone knows the real us they won't find us worthy, so we sort of feel like we have to frost ourselves a little bit to make ourselves more appealing."
I do not agree with what what she said. If you're going to ask me, I think it's much better if you get to know the person well. And It's also much better to be your natural self when you're trying to win a girl's heart. You shouldn't lie about yourself because once she finds out, you will have lesser chances with her.
And once you get in a relationship with that guy who tried to "impress" you, here are 7 lies men tell women. "7 Lies Men Tell Women" by Dr. Joyce Brothers. As stated in a study by a psychologist named Bella DePaulo, there are differences in how men and women lie. The difference is that when a woman lie, she only does just to make other feel better. And when men lie, they build themselves up to conceal something. Now going to the 7 lies men tell women, first is, men have a hard time admitting failure. They don't want other people to step on their pride/ego. Second is they tell us that they like our friends even when they don't. Third is when men tell their partner that she's the best even when she's not. Fourth is (this lie hurts so much just because you're falling out of love with your partner), when he tells you that he can't call you. Fifth, "That dress isn't too tight, that's great!" Men only say the things that their partner wants to hear. Sixth, Many men still feel paternalistic about the women they love, so they lie to spare them worry. But these lies can destroy the very sense of confidence that the man hoped to create. And they can make a woman feel she is not a respected partner in the relationship. Seventh, when a man wants to avoid a scene with his partner, he says lies like "I'll take the kids to the park — when the weather gets nicer," he says as he goes out the door with golf clubs.
"And most people agree that some lying is even necessary — to avoid petty squabbles and to grease the wheels of a relationship," says Dr. Joyce.
Hmmm.. Yeah, maybe sometimes you have to lie too. But I guess you have to tell the truth most of the time. Just like what I've read in the article earlier, constant lying can unglue a relationship.
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