Blogpost 6: Hurt Me With The Truth

Knowing you're being lied to is worse than being hurt by the truth. Some truths make you go mad but being lied to destroys your trust. Just like in James Morrison's song, Broken Strings, "The truth hurts. And lies worse."  When people lie to me, it makes me feel like I'm unworthy of the truth. I had a lot of experiences already. A lot of people broke my trust already and honestly, it's very hard to bring back that trust. That's why I have trust issues. So, how do you deal with being lied to? 

This is an article about how deception crushes our trust, titled, "Why Lying Hurts So Much" by Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. She said that everyone is a victim of lie. Our faith is broken into pieces and the next thing we know is it's already hard for us to trust. Everything gets worse when we should've just told the truth. By telling lie after lie, we create distances from our real selves because we build false version of reality. If we repeat the same lie over and over again, we may even come to believe that it's already true. Question here is, how do you keep your faith when someone (whether he/she may be a lover, a close friend, an acquaintance) has lied to you? There are many ways on how you can maintain your faith. 3 of the ways are: Look for people who make you feel good. Seek people who you you don't only admire but who you also like. Give your trust to those people who will defend you. 

"By telling lie after lie, we eventually can suffer from building a false version of reality that increasingly distances us from our real selves. After repeatedly lying about the same thing, we may even come to believe it is true," says Bella DePaulo.

A lie can't be covered by another lie. No, it just can't. As it gets piled up, things just become more and more complicated. End the freaking lie, just tell me the truth. Always remember that when you tell a lie once, all the truths you'll be saying next will become questionable.

Now here's another article about why it is important to tell the truth. The author if this next article is Troy Rampy. The title is "How Important Is It To Tell The Truth."  We just can't change other people and make them tell the truth. In growing up, our parents always tell us to always tell the truth. But as we grow older, we get influenced to lie by our peers, media and other more things. We think that lying makes everything so easy. Maybe yes, maybe no. It's true that things get a little easier, but remember that there is always a price we pay. Once we start lying, it makes us unworthy of other people's trust. With mistrust comes a certain tension. STRESS. Yup, stress. You may ask what telling the truth has something to do with decreasing stress. Telling the truth promotes our well-being. Once we begin telling the truth, it will make us feel good. That's basically it.

"And with mistrust comes a certain tension. You know, stress. And it begins to calcify: in our thoughts; in our emotions; in our behaviors; in our beliefs; in our body," says Troy.

Right. So why stress over the lie you just said when you can just tell the truth? Remember, when in doubt, tell the truth.