Blogpost 7: The Cruelest Lies Are Often Told In Silence

Lying is done with words.. BUT ALSO WITH SILENCE. All of you might think that lies happen only when a person speaks. Not! Hidden truths are unspoken lies, you know. These lies are called lies of omission. I was researching articles about deception and then I found this article that I found very interesting. At first, I didn't know that when an important fact is left out, it means you're already lying. Seriously. When people ask me about something and I don't want to tell the truth, I sometimes change the topic or I simply don't answer. That means I'm already lying. WHAT. What are lies of omission? (Because all of you might be asking me..) It means to leave out portions of the truth in order to deliberately mislead someone into drawing a false conclusion. Now, how about lies of omission in relationships? How do those lies ruin a relationship?

In this article by Tara Finch, "In Dating, Lies Of Omission Can Almost Ruin Everything", she will be telling us how lies of omission ruin a relationship. Lies of omission is somewhat damaging just like telling a lie. It has a negative effect when someone makes a decision to tell you the truth or not. If you date a guy you just met online, chances are, your relationship wouldn't last long. It will most likely be just a short-term relationship. Guys behind computers are great omitters. Because when you meet a guy online, he will sing songs to you over the phone and tell you things that would knock you off your feet. You know that there are red flags, but you just ignore them because you're that crazy over this guy. According to the author online dating is a very demoralizing exercise in frustration because you don't even know the whole background of this person. You don't know a lot about him yet. Well, to cut the story short, people won't tell everything to you. It's like you have to find out for yourself. 

"I feel lucky that this situation didn't end up any worse. The thing is, while it is extremely easy to be deceitful on the Internet, this situation could have just as easily happened if I had met this guy at my corner grocery store or a local bar. The Internet does not corner the market on crazy," says Tara.

Personally, I hate online dating. Main reason is because there really big chances that the person you are dating is just going to pretend and just lie to you all the time. Who's going to be the victim here? It's going to be us. And another thing, it's really better to get to know this person by dating him personally, not through the internet.

This is another article similar to the article I've read earlier, titled, "The Destructive Power of Lies" by Gail Watts. People believe that lies of omission aren't really lies. Because a lie of omission is defined as "A method of deception and duplicity that uses the technique of simply remaining silent when speaking the truth which would significantly alter the other person’s capacity to make an informed decision." Lying to someone very close to your heart is just so unfair. Protecting someone's feelings doesn't mean that your lying. But in a relationship, it's always better to tell your partner the truth and nothing but the truth. It's always better to be honest than to be untrustworthy. When your partner loses trust in you, it's not just temporary. It takes forever to bring back that trust. Or maybe not at all..

"Lies not only destroy love between of a couple, but also the person who was deceived," says Gail.

It does. It also destroys the person you lied to because it will make her not want to trust someone ever again. Like what people say, "Never trust someone who lies to you and never lie to someone who trusts you." In these two articles that I've read, I learned that lying is not only done with words but also with silence. Will people just stop hiding the truth?