According to this article that I've read that was written by Allison Kornet, "The Truth About Lying", lying has been a part of our everyday life. Because in reality, our society encourages us to lie. It is an everyday phenomenon. In other words, it has been a habit for us already. We just can't end the day without lying. In a 1996 study by DePaulo, she stated that people lie about once or twice a day just as often they eat snacks or brush their teeth. Another thing about dishonesty, as stated in this article is that, in a relationship one or both partners had lied about their previous relationships. Dating couples lie to each other more than they lie to other people.
"Deception is rampant—and sometimes we tell the biggest lies to those we love most," says Allison.
I highly agree to what the author stated. Just like in relationships, we lie because we just want our partners to have a positive image of us and because we want to maintain the facade in our relationship.
Now, let's talk about those sweet little lies in the article "LIES: The Termites Of Relationships - Why Do We Lie And How Can We Stop?" Little lies a.k.a fake positive lies. Well, those sweet little lies help us to get along with the other people. We say these lies every time we pretend that we like someone or something more than we really do. A survey of residents in Los Angeles revealed that some Korean Americans and 90% of Americans of European or African felt that the truth must be told to patients who are terminally ill.
"You save your really big lies for the person that you're closest to," says DePaulo.
The purpose is to avoid conflicts and to maintain order in our lives. It also helps us to avoid insults and disagreements with other people. Some people try to be straight forward to the point that they tell us an ugly truth, right? Well, some of us react angrily or violently. If you're one of them, you are just training other people to lie to you because you do not recognize that it takes a lot of courage to tell the ugly truth and be true.
